The Best Sex Toys For Men

Most of the time when we talk about sex toys we’re talking about two kinds of toys in particular: dildos and vibrators. And while these toys can be enjoyed by anyone, they’re primarily designed for use by women.

Very rarely do sex toys designed for men get any airtime, and they’re not as widely accepted as sex toys for women. It’s seen as normal to own a vibrator. It’s seen as much less normal to own a fleshlight.

This is a shame. Playing with toys opens up so many interesting possibilities. They can:

Increase pleasure
Allow you to discover new sensations
Help you become a better lover
Make masturbation more varied and exciting

It is eminently worthwhile exploring male sex toys. But where do you start? Here’s a quick overview of all the male toys that have thus far been invented…

General vibrators

Pretty much any vibrator works just as well on a male body as it does on a female one. If you’ve never used a vibe on yourself before, I’d recommend experimenting. Press it against your glans, the shaft of your cock, between your legs, etc, until you find a spot that’s stimulating for you.

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Bullet vibes provide targeted stimulation that’s usually quite buzzy or light. I’d recommend the Lovehoney Mini Thrill Rechargeable Silicone Bullet Vibrator (available from Lovehoney UK and Lovehoney US). The silicone outer shell makes it a little more pleasant to use than plastic vibes, without losing any power.

If you want deeper or more powerful vibrations, you could instead opt for a magic wand vibrator. The Doxy Extra Powerful Massage Wand Vibrator (available from Bondara, Lovehoney UK, or Lovehoney US) is generally recognised as the best magic wand vibrator out there: it’s well-built, easy to clean, massively powerful, and just generally great at making people come.

Specific cock vibes

As well as general-use vibrators, you’ll also find a number of toys that are specifically designed for use by someone with a cock.

The Blowmotion Warming Vibrating Male Masturbator (get it from Lovehoney UK or Lovehoney US) is a solid example – you’ll need a compatible lube to snug the head of your cock into the mouth of the toy, but once it’s in it’ll surround the tip of you with vibrations. You can also use the heating function to warm it up to body temperature before use.

The Bondara Flex Black Silicone 10 Function Vibrating Masturbator (sold by Bondara) is another male vibe that specifically targets the head of the cock. The wings make it nice and easy to get into, and allow you to squeeze it while in use to vary the intensity of sensation.

Cock rings

Cock rings are stretchy rings that are placed around the base of your cock before engaging in sexual activity. By restricting blood flow, they can allow you to stay hard for (slightly) longer, and enjoy a (slightly) firmer erection. Some guys also just enjoy the constricting sensation of a ring around the base of their cock.

Most cock rings are made of silicone – a stretchy material that makes them easy to put on over your cock. The Get Hard Extra Thick Silicone Cock Ring Set, which includes three different ring sizes for maximum comfort, is available from Lovehoney UK and Lovehoney USA.

For a somewhat stricter experience, you can opt for a stainless steel cock ring (like the Hot Hardware Rainbow Stainless Steel Cock Ring available from Bondara). A stainless steel ring doesn’t stretch, and so will maintain a much stricter grip on your cock.

Vibrating cock rings

Vibrating cock rings are cock rings with a tiny vibrator attached to them. They can be used like a normal cock ring, with the vibrator positioned at the base of your cock to provide clitoral stimulation to your partner when you’re inside them.

Alternatively, they can also be used as a masturbatory toy: set the ring just under the head of your cock with the vibrator against your glans for hands-free stimulation.

I’d recommend a rechargeable vibrating cock ring, like the Tracey Cox Supersex Silicone Vibrating Love Ring (available from Lovehoney UK or Lovehoney USA). Disposable cock rings are often made of cheap materials and use cheap, weak vibrating elements.

Cock cages and sheathes

Cock cages are generally used in the course of chastity play. The general idea is to secure your cock in such a way that you can’t get an erection – something which can be fun for all sorts of reasons.

You absolutely don’t need a partner to play with cock cages. You can put yourself in chastity to make your masturbation sessions longer and more intense, and lots of guys enjoy the stimulation provided by the weight and constriction of a cage.

For someone new to chastity play, it’s best to start with a generously-sized cage that’s easy to get into. The Torment Stainless Steel Birdcage Chastity Cage (available from Bondara) is my personal favourite for being spacious-but-not-too-spacious, and very easy to slip into.

Sheathes are generally skintight and flexible cock coverings. They provide a good dose of squeezing and constriction, but are thin enough that you can still stimulate yourself through them. The Renegade Rubber Cock and Ball Sheath (available from Lovehoney UK or Lovehoney US) is a good sheath to start experimenting with.

Some sheaths are also designed to add length or girth to your cock. The Black Silicone Penis Extension by Calexotics (available from SheVibe) is a particularly fine example of this kind of toy, both aesthetically and functionally. It’s comfortable to wear, robust, and adds a pleasing extra two inches to your rod.

Fleshlights

A fleshlight is perhaps most succinctly (albeit crudely) described as “a cunt in a can”. They usually consist of a rigid outer shell and a soft textured liner. Some even have built-in vibrators or warming functionality for added ~~realism~~ pleasure.

You’ll need a compatible lube to enjoy your fleshlight. And in some cases you’ll need to sprinkle the toy with Fleshlight renewing powder after each use to keep it clean and unsticky – you can pick up renewing powder from Bondara, Lovehoney UK or Lovehoney US.

Fleshlight is the de facto authority on fleshlights – so much so that their brand name is now often used as a generic name for any similar product. You can browse their range via SheVibe, Lovehoney UK or Lovehoney US.

Fuck dolls

Dolls come in a variety of shapes and sizes – the most common ones consist of just a torso. You can get dolls with arms, legs and a head… but they take up more room and generally look a bit more uncanny, so they’re not as popular.

There are many things that make sex dolls fun to play with:

Their weight and size make them feel more like a real partner
They give you something to hold and touch while masturbating
Their weight means you can fuck them “hands-free”, unlike a fleshlight

At the same time, however, they can be pretty inconvenient. They’re difficult to clean, take up a lot of space, and are heavy and difficult to move around. Oh, and they’re also eye-wateringly expensive.

Still, if you want one nonetheless, you can pick up a good-quality, full-body Realistic Sex Doll from Bondara, or (if you just want a torso) try the Pipedream Fuck Me Silly Mega Masturbator from Uberkinky.

Strokers and sleeves

A stroker or sleeve is a little bit like a stripped down fleshlight. It might be a simple silicone ring, or something more exotic. Some are an open ring, so that you can push your cock all the way through – these can be used during other play; for example to provide simulation while you’re receiving a blowjob.

Other strokers are closed units, which keeps everything nicely self-contained, and means that mess is minimal.

TENGA make some really cool, high-quality strokers, including the TENGA Egg Textured Masturbators (available from Lovehoney UK, Lovehoney US and Bondara. These funky fellas that look like eggs before you open them.

For something a little more high end, TENGA also have the Flip Zero Luxury Male Masturbator (available from Lovehoney UK and Lovehoney US) – a stroker with built-in vibration and pressure functionality.

Penis pumps

A penis pump is a thick tube that you slip over your cock. There’s usually a tight rubber seal at the base to make the unit airtight, and a squeezy bulb so that you can pump air out of the chamber. This creates a sucking sensation that can be very pleasing.

Penis pumps are often used as a way to increase the length of girth of your penis. There’s no concrete evidence that they work, but people generally feel that they do.

While they may not permanently alter your anatomy, they are likely to help you get a slightly firmer erection. The sucking action and the stimulation of your dick draws blood to that area of your body, resulting in a nice firm stiffy.

When it comes to penis pumps, I’d recommend the Optimum Series Rechargeable Waterproof Penis Pump Kit by Calexotics (which you can buy from SheVibe). It’s a diverse, powerful pump which fits most guys and has a lot of options for play and pleasure.

Oral sex simulators

Oral sex simulators are often thought of as toys for women, but there’s no reason that men can’t enjoy them also. Toys like the Sqwheel are designed to stimulate the clit, but can also be applied to the glans of your dick for excellent results.

The Sqweel (get it from Lovehoney UK or Lovehoney US) is a wheel covered in little rubber tongues which rotates at varying speeds – with a bit of lube it (more or less) simulates the sensation of a vigorous licking.

Elsewhere, the Lelo Ora 3 Rechargeable Luxury Clitoral Pleasure Stimulator (available from Lovehoney UK or Lovehoney US) works by swirling around a hard bead under a silicone covering, creating a sensuous, stroking sensation. Ignore the fact that it has the word “clitoral” in its name. It works just fine on your glans, and may be just what you’re looking for if you’d like to take a break from straightforward vibrating toys.

Sex simulators

There are a range of sex simulators out there, and they generally take the form of a fleshlight mounted to a device that makes it either rotate or thrust (or both).

These toys can be expensive, and are often very bulky. They somewhat justify their pricetag, though, by providing a lot of stimulation, and doing so (mostly) hands free.

Kiiroo makes some interesting toys in this genre, including the Keon Interactive Male Masturbator (available from Lovehoney UK and Lovehoney US), which can (with some considerable effort) be integrated with virtual reality porn – read more about VR porn here if that sounds interesting to you.

Prostate massagers

A prostate massager is an anal toy specifically designed for men. Lube it up, insert it and the tip should end up in approximately the right place to stimulate your prostate – something which might be able to make you come in and of itself, or which will otherwise enhance orgasms from other stimulation.

If this is a new concept to you, I’d recommend the Mantric Rechargeable Remote Control Prostate Vibrator (get it from Lovehoney UK or Lovehoney US). It’s relatively slim, and comes with a remote control (which makes it infinitely easier to use when it’s in your arse).